Kinds of Happiness

In life, one of the most important things is being happy.  Our parents would ask us, "Are you happy with your relationship?" or "Do you think you are happy with your chosen career?"

There are a lot of questions when it comes to happiness... as well as a lot of answers.  I am no expert in this kind of stuff about life but what I know is if I am happy with what I do, I feel satisfied too.

We are all different from one another, thus, we experience different kinds of happiness.  There are others who are happy with material things that there are times they forget what real happiness in life is.  The opposite of these people are those individuals who are happy and satisfied with their simple life... especially if their families and love ones are with them.  And so on and so forth.

So, what is happiness?  For me, happiness is an event where you feel light-hearted, where you want to smile a lot, where you want to do good things for others without asking in return, or an incident where you feel fully satisfied, physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.

There are different kinds of happiness, as of what I know.  First is what others called "happiness with God" or spiritual happiness.  This is when you travel in life to seek peace, love and joy towards the Divine Presence.  I am not a religious expert but it is true, if you seek God, you will find true happiness.  Just like any other journey, there will always be a stumble block that you will encounter in the way.  It is an easy way towards God kingdom, just do what God wants us to do, but it is up to us if we are going to get distracted by other things around us... and by temptation.


Another kind of happiness is what a lot of people is seeking nowadays, the so-called "material happiness."  This is all about money, riches, fame, career, etc.  In other words, the worldly happiness.  I have to admit, I do look for satisfaction with material things to find support in my needs on earth as person but I don't let these things take over my whole life.  This is what I think people should know... We should take over, to be masters, of the material things in the world, not them to be our masters.


What being discussed here are just two general examples of happiness.  It may be incomplete in details but I hope you get the idea.  =)

Happiness is not just coming from the things we see around us but also it comes from within us.  The motivation, the interests we have, the love... these are all sources of happiness that we, as human beings, sometimes ignored.

What To Do in a Heated Situation

When I was younger, I dreamt of working at a hospital or having my own business where I know I can be happily work in. However, as I get older and graduated from college, it seemed that my dreams of getting things were quite harder than I thought. Fortunately, reality was not really hard on teaching me the lessons in life.

Through the years of working and playing, I felt that Somebody was guiding me the way through life. I still feel it even at the present. I haven't realize this until now. Guiding? Yes. Spoon-feeding? Nah! Not really. How did I come up with this conclusion? This is how.

As a staff for years, I learned how to become a real follower. Being a follower doesn't mean that you have to obey and oblige to all the things your employer or your boss has to tell you... even if it affects you as a human being and your capacity to do work. I am fortunate enough that all of my bosses are okay to deal with and very understanding about their employees. However, there will be other bosses that are not like that.

There will be someone above your ranking that is hard to deal with sometimes. From them, I learned (and still learning) how I want to be when I become one of them. The incidents with them will always be different from each other, from each human to another human. On how to deal with it also differ from each person and their personality.

I know that there are times when you really want to punch your boss's nose really hard just to get even but that is not the case. My friends and family told me several techniques on how to deal with this kind of person, not just in the office setting but also in other stuff:

1. Take a deep breath first just so to clear your mind. Oxygen helps, remember that.

2. Smile, inside and out, even you feel like stabbing that person. Smiling makes us feel more relaxed.

3. Count. This is an old advice but still it works! Even if it will take you to a hundred!

4. Face that person slowly. Slow movements make our muscles loosen up.

5. Talk slowly so you won't eat your words and just to avoid misunderstandings. Again, slow movements help us feel relaxed. In this manner, you can clearly hear every word you say.

6. Be assertive, not aggressive. These two words are really different from each other. Look up at the dictionary to find out their differences.

7. Think of what you should say. If actions cut deep, words cut deeper.

8. Take a pause for a breather after each exchange of ideas, words, reasons, etc. Again, oxygen helps to relax our minds and muscles. This also aid us in thinking and deciding clearly.

9. Pull the reins harder when it comes to your emotions. Yes! I have to admit it that it is hard to hold back what you are feeling especially if your anger is about to burst out. Being emotional will not help resolve the issue/s you are dealing with. If the other person you're talking to is telling other people who are not involved about what happened, then let it be... for the moment. However, if it is already too big to handle, then you have to do something else...

10. Like I indicated, if things are out of your hands already, talk to your supervisor or manager, whoever has a higher rank than you, about this dispute. They can help you. Let them know your side but never get too emotional. Keep the respect. Be assertive.

11. Do not forget to ask God for guidance. He never fails!

12. And last, admit your mistakes. This shows that you are humble enough to claim that, as a human being, you do commit mistakes.